Things I wish people knew about therapy
Myths surrounding therapy and psychologists are plentiful in most cultures. The therapeutic process is private, which ultimately, and unfortunately, means that it is covered in mystery, outdated stigma, and harmful misconceptions. Misconceptions around mental health and mental illness, lack of knowing what really happens during a therapy session can often discourage or frighten people from seeking the help they truly need. Equally important is that it often undermines one’s healing process.
There are things that we, psychologists, wish people knew about our work. Here are a few:
Your current state is not your identity.
You are already whole. Therapy will only help you see that.
I can’t fix you, but I can give you the tools so that you can fix you.
Our hour together is yours. I will not answer calls, answer emails or text.
Confidentiality - everything we talk about stays between us.
It may take time until you find the right psychologist for you (or your family).
Inner peace is a way of travel, not a destination.
Therapy can be joyful, peaceful, and healing, but also painful, uncomfortable, and vulnerable.
You will not always leave the session feeling light, pleasant, and great.
There doesn’t have to be something “wrong” with you to see a psychologist.
Therapy only works if you show up regularly.
Go to therapy, even if “nothing” is wrong that week.
Being able to push through the discomfort is key to recovery.
Therapy is a team effort.
Therapy is not a quick fix. It will take time.
Lasting change requires work between sessions.
There is growth in silence.
It’s ok to talk about the same problems each time you come.
If you feel stuck, bring that feeling to therapy and work through it.
Sessions may end abruptly.
I will not give you advice.
I will not judge you.
My job is not about psychoanalysing you.
There is no such thing as a “wrong” or “bad” feeling.
You may slide back to old behaviours, and that’s ok.
Child therapy = family therapy.
It’s an honour to work with you and your family.
Honesty is the best policy - I can read emotions, I cannot read minds.
Therapy is YOU investing in YOU!
I wonder if you can think of any more! Feel free to add them to the comments below!
If you still are unsure if therapy is the right step for you or your child, reach out! Call me for a free 20-minute consultation - I’d love to answer your questions and clear out any uncertainties you may have.