Why saying “You’re so autistic” is wrong

I’ve been hearing this phrase too often lately, and find myself feeling overly frustrated and protective over the beautiful neurodiverse population. So I decided to write about it! “You’re so autistic” - just writing it brings up much anger in me. This statement is not only incorrect but also hurtful. Let’s explore why it’s so wrong to say this, understand the beauty of autism, and discuss why it’s important to teach our children about the incredible neurodiversity that surrounds us.

Understanding autism

Autism, or Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), is a developmental condition that affects how a person experiences the world, processes information, and interacts with others. People with autism have unique ways of thinking, learning, and perceiving their environment. Autism is a spectrum, meaning it includes a wide range of abilities and characteristics.

 Why saying “you’re so autistic” is harmful

It minimises people: When someone uses “autistic” as an insult or a way to describe someone’s behaviour, it reduces a complex and rich human experience to a stereotype. Autism is not a single negative trait or a behaviour; it’s a broad spectrum that encompasses a variety of characteristics.

It’s disrespectful: Using autism as a derogatory term disrespects and devalues individuals who are on the autism spectrum. It perpetuates stigma and reinforces negative stereotypes, making it harder for people with autism to be accepted and understood.

It lacks understanding: Such statements reflect a lack of understanding and awareness about what autism truly is. They ignore the strengths and positive attributes that come with autism, focusing only on misconceptions.

The beauty of autism

Autism brings a unique and beautiful perspective to the world. Here are some of the wonderful traits and strengths often associated with autism:

Exceptional focus and attention to detail: Many individuals with autism have an extraordinary ability to focus intensely on interests or tasks. This can lead to remarkable achievements in areas they are passionate about, such as art, music, science, or technology.

Honesty and authenticity: People with autism are often incredibly honest and genuine. They tend to communicate without hidden agendas, which can make their interactions refreshingly straightforward and sincere.

Unique perspectives: Autistic individuals often see the world differently. This unique perspective can lead to innovative ideas and solutions that others might not consider. Their ability to think outside the box is a tremendous asset in creative and problem-solving contexts.

Strong loyalty and passion: When someone with autism forms a connection or develops an interest, they often show deep loyalty and passion. This can result in strong, meaningful relationships and an impressive depth of knowledge in their areas of interest.

Sensory awareness: Many autistic people have heightened sensory awareness, noticing details and nuances that others might overlook. This heightened perception can enhance experiences in nature, art, and other sensory-rich environments.

Teaching your children about neurodiversity

It’s essential for parents to educate your children about neurodiversity, which includes understanding and appreciating the differences in how people think, feel, and experience the world. Here’s why this is so important:

Fostering empathy and acceptance: Teaching children about neurodiversity helps them develop empathy and acceptance for people who are different from them. This understanding can lead to more inclusive and supportive communities.

Reducing stigma: By educating your children about autism and other neurodivergent conditions, we can help reduce the stigma and negative stereotypes that often surround these conditions. Knowledge and understanding are powerful tools in creating a more accepting society.

Celebrating differences: Encouraging your children to celebrate differences rather than fear them fosters a sense of appreciation for the diverse ways people contribute to the world. It helps children see the value in everyone, regardless of how they think or process information.

Promoting advocacy: Informed children are more likely to become advocates for their neurodivergent peers. They can stand up against bullying and discrimination, helping to create a more inclusive environment for everyone.

Using phrases like “you’re so autistic” is harmful and perpetuates misunderstanding and stigma. Instead, we can focus on the beauty of autism and the unique contributions that autistic individuals bring to our world. By teaching our children about neurodiversity, we foster empathy, acceptance, and a deeper appreciation for the rich tapestry of human experience.

Theodora Constantinou