Promoting a healthy body image in teens: A parent's guide
In today's digital age, teenagers are inundated with images of “ideal” body types, which are most often severely unrealistic and a result of either digital filtering, cosmetic surgery or “simply” a different body type and developmental level of the person portrayed on the screen. This often leads to unrealistic standards and fostering a negative body image. Here are some essential tips on promoting a positive body image in your teenagers and avoiding common pitfalls.
Open dialogue
Begin by creating an open and non-judgmental space for conversations about body image. Encourage your teen to express their feelings and concerns. Active listening is key; it helps your child feel heard and valued.
Positive reinforcement
Focus on your teenager's strengths, skills, and unique qualities. Emphasise their achievements, talents, and the qualities that make them exceptional, beyond their physical appearance. Praise their efforts and resilience.
Be a role model
Your own body image and self-esteem play a significant role in shaping your child's perception of themselves. Demonstrate self-acceptance, positive self-talk, and a healthy lifestyle. Avoid self-criticism and negative comments about your own body.
Encourage media literacy
Teach your teen to critically analyse media messages. Discuss how images are often digitally altered and do not reflect reality. Help them understand the difference between entertainment and reality.
Reject body shaming
Never engage in body shaming, whether directed at your child or others. Encourage empathy and kindness, emphasizing that appearance-based judgments are hurtful and unkind.
Focus on health, not weight
Shift the conversation from weight to overall health. Encourage balanced eating, regular physical activity, and getting adequate sleep. Highlight the importance of a healthy lifestyle for long-term well-being.
Teach emotional intelligence
Help your teenager understand and manage their emotions. Show them healthy ways to cope with stress and difficult feelings, which can often trigger body image concerns.
Encourage peer support
Support your teen in building strong, positive relationships with friends who uplift and empower one another. Healthy friendships provide a buffer against negative influences.
Monitor social media
Discuss the impact of social media and its potential to cultivate negative body image. Teach your teenager to curate their online experience by following accounts that promote self-love and positivity.
Seek professional help
If you notice signs of significant body image struggles, such as extreme weight loss or gain, social withdrawal, or depression, don't hesitate to consult a mental health professional who specialises in adolescent issues.
Things to avoid saying:
“You're too skinny/overweight” - These comments can lead to insecurity and unhealthy dieting behaviours.
“I wish I had your figure” - This implies that their worth is solely based on appearance.
“Are you sure you want to eat that?” - This can foster an unhealthy relationship with food and eating.
“You'd be so pretty if...” - Conditional praise can be damaging and perpetuate insecurity.
“Boys/girls like [specific body type]” - Reinforcing stereotypes can create pressure to conform.
“I'm on a diet” - This can instill fear of food and diet culture.
“You should exercise to lose weight” - Emphasising weight loss over fitness can be harmful.